Intersectionality, class, politics, counselling and the freedom of inquiry

“A working class hero is something to be / As soon as you’re born they make you feel small / By giving you no time instead of it all / Till the pain is so big you feel nothing at all…” (song lyrics written by John Lennon and sung by John Lennon at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMewtlmkV6c)

Part One

Today I will mostly be drawing on Counselling, Class and Politics written by Anne Kearney in 1996 and edited and commented on by Gillian Proctor and other authors in 2018, so the focus will be on social class and the field of psychology and counselling, but a lot of what is discussed in the book could apply to many of our identities and positions, and also, in relation to other social contexts and disciplines apart from psychology and counselling.  In this piece the focus will be on social identities; especially class, and the importance of taking contextualization and intersectionality into account. The term intersectionality was coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, lawyer and activist, who used it to describe how our political and social identities and the contexts we find ourselves in are combined to create both privilege and discrimination. The dynamic combination of our different identities advantage and disadvantage us. Although this would seem reasonable and easy to understand it is often the case that social discourse and social reality are de-contextualized to fit schemas, serve belief systems and the interests of social groups, and generally keep the status quo intact.

The book consists of two parts Kearny’s original work before she died and commentaries from people who have been influenced by her work from both sides of the therapeutic experience. In the introduction of this recent second edition Kearny’s family write: “Perhaps the most important thing we can end on is to recognise and value how Anne encouraged and facilitated those she worked with to be receptive to change and to think about that complicated set of connections between the world outside, the world we live in and how we make sense of the two – emotionally, practically and politically. We hope that this dialogue continues and, in so doing, it will genuinely reflect her wish too. Anne Kearney’s family April 2018”

Some things to initially consider are: Τhe available literature shows that the field has been for a long time and to a great extent white and middle class in its culture and discourse and defenders of the status quo. And although social class has been studied in many disciplines it seems that in the literature of psychotherapy it is often an avoided topic. There has also been a preoccupation on deficient psychologies of the working class that practically leads to class-based oppression, poverty and inequality to be rare in research in the discipline. The issues of how the social positions we grow up in later on shape our views, identity and sense of belonging, and also, how we navigate inner and outer conflicts when we move up the social ladder or enter this profession.

Some questions that arise are: Why does this social position and lived experience often find resistance or is not included in the conversation? Why does the field of psychotherapy and counseling find it difficult to understand that the external world and societal realities also shape who we are, what we become or what we experience?  As I was reading material for this post I came across another important question: Why do people from less privileged backgrounds (both clients and professionals) lack a sophisticate discourse for the impact of coming from a more disadvantaged (economic) background? Why are these topics often not welcome in educational or academic settings?

This last question takes me back a decade ago when I grappled with issues discussed in Todd B. Kashdan’s [professor and researcher of psychology] recent article: 10 Principles for Embracing Productive Conflict (March 7, 2022) in an educational context. In this article Kashdan claims that in (higher) education there should be opportunities for curiosity and the exchange of perspectives and that we should desire for students to think and be courageous enough to share their thoughts, unvarnished and uncensored. Because in order to understand the complexity of human behavior and society, we need to articulate hard questions and respectfully consider alternative views, and worrying about whether we can ask questions and challenge others’ views is antithetical to education. He continues that in higher education we need to confront a lot of hard questions and problems, such as, racial, social, class and campus climate problems. Concerning the latter he refers to surveys that indicate a rise in the number of college students reluctant to share views on controversial topics in the classroom due to fears that other students or the professor would criticize their views. Kashdan discusses how a wholesome educational experience should be committed to freedom of inquiry, freedom of conscience, and civil discourse, where all topics are open to contemplation and an evaluation of the existing evidence, and where questions can be asked and discussed. Some questions to consider:

How do you protect dissent? How do you create a place where people can ask provocative questions without being cancelled and others can respond with subsequent questions and concerns? How do you establish a culture that permits and embraces minorities, whether defined by number, power, status or demographics?

Kashdan writes: “What truly determines whether freedom of inquiry exists in a university is how people respond when the minority points out dysfunctional beliefs and practices the majority holds.” And to support this he has developed a proposed charter composed of 10 principles for higher education institutions interested in building academic, intellectual and social communities. Summarily, these ten principles are:

A, If you can think of a question, you can ask it. The only dangerous question is the belief that dangerous questions exist. B. Encourage others to speak by letting them know that you will work hard to react with charity, curiosity and the assumption of positive intent. When speaking, you should receive the same receptivity.  C. Reduce the impact of how much you like or dislike people when it comes to making judgments about the content of their messages and how you treat them. Know that likability is often irrelevant to the legitimacy of ideas. Separate the message from the messenger. D. Resist treating individuals as representatives of their groups. There is often more heterogeneity within groups than between groups. E. Balance the pressures for conformity with a willingness to explore alternative ideas and perspectives.  Being open and curious does not imply any commitment to changing views. F. Broaden definitions of diversity to go beyond what is visible to include categories of class and socioeconomic status, adversity, neurodiversity, and individual differences in temperament and personality. G. Resist the temptation to label people as simply “bad” or sexist, racist, homophobic, elitist…. Instead, engage in the task of grappling with the quality of their ideas and solutions. H. Be aware of cognitive biases that afflict everyone. Hold the same standards for evidence whether it agrees or disagrees with your initial and preferred positions. I. Rely on evidence as much as possible, even if this leads toward answers that conflict with your assumptions and preferences. J. Each person needs to commit to learning and growing and be willing to let go of ideas that are no longer working or that fail to survive empirical scrutiny.

Counselling, Class and Politics

As I mentioned the book consists of two parts: a) Kearny’s original book and b) a commentaries section.

A.Kearny’s 1996 book is very rich in themes and each of her chapters contains many valuable exercises, questions and role-plays (suitable for counselors, trainers and trainees, supervisors, and all of us really) to help us understand the impact of class and our own class upbringing and alert us to the culture of counselling and how this culture often perpetuates middle-class assumptions and values and renders certain other realities invisible. Kearny argues that counsellors are, like everyone else, political beings with a political ideology they might not be aware, that has direct and indirect consequences for clients. Throughout the book she raises the issue that counselling is informed by a set of political values and beliefs that are part of the dominant political ideology of the society in which counselling is being practised. The titles of and areas she explores in her eight basic chapters are: counselling and ideology; social stratification; social class and counselling; political socialization and counselling; Rogerian counselling and politics; regulation, professionalisation and accreditation; the role of the counselor (whose side are we on?). As I said her book is rich in ideas and it’s structured in a way that assists exploration and discussion in class, training and supervision sessions; therefore, it is only possible for me to briefly touch upon some basic points of her work in the space of this post.

In the first chapter she discusses how as well as there being individual differences between people, there are also other group differences: differences that derive from the social section of society to which we belong. She explores how many mainstream assumptions have now been challenged by the criticisms of mainstream practice put forward by feminist counsellors and transcultural counsellors, who have asserted that “‘neutral’ attitudes claimed by ‘mainstream’ counsellors were, in fact, far from neutral, and certainly not neutral in their consequences for female clients and clients from different cultural backgrounds than their counsellors.” A third set of arguments claiming the non-neutrality of counsellors and the existence of a particular ideology has come from groups of disabled people, who basically, claim that in physical and practical ways, disabled people are frequently excluded, not only by the physical impairments they deal with in a built environment that is planned and organised by non-disabled people, but also because counsellors continue to operate with a medical model of the world and simply attribute all the difficulties disabled people experience to their impairments. But in reality, Kearny writes: “the disabling process is a set of ideological beliefs about impairment, and, to the extent that counsellors fail to challenge that ideology, they are part of the process that disempowers people with a disability….”

In relation to class, Kearny claims that the issue of class is almost never referred to in counselling at any level (in training courses, in training manuals, or in books about counselling); however, she suggests that class differences are not merely ‘equal but different’, but involve huge disparities of income, wealth, power and status, which are so taken for granted that we fail to take into account their impact on every aspect of our lives and those of our clients. She writes: “The social differences between groups also represent different ‘ways of being‘, different attitudes, different aspirations, a different sense of identity and so on, in almost every sphere of our lives.”

In the second chapter she introduces different types of stratification by which people in a society are divided into groups, social class as a form of stratification system, social mobility, and more specifically, the impact class has on counselling. She discusses how most people remain greatly unaware of the political, economic and social processes that form the scaffolding of their lives. We mostly take the framework within which we live and the ideology that justifies it as a ‘given’ and we don’t often question, challenge, or are even aware of it. She says it’s like being a child in a family setting. As children we take the framework, the roles, the assumptions, and the ideology of our particular family as ‘given’. It’s only when we get older and can observe how other families might operate, that we realise that there are many ways to do things. She writes: “… the framework of our family life is often not apparent to us until we step outside it and see it in all its relativity. The same applies to broader cultural frameworks: they are often not even perceived because they create the order and the meaning structure of our lives. In each of these examples, what we are also taking as a ‘given’ is the distribution of power as it takes place in our society, both because it is seen as ‘given’ and because we (if we are members of a relatively powerful group) have a vested interest in not recognising and / or challenging power inequalities.”

She goes on to explain how often counsellors (and people generally) tend to believe that they are ‘not political’ because they may not have a strong preference for one party over another, are not politically active in their community, or aren’t interested in discussing or reading about politics.  I believe that it isn’t really possible to operate in the world without a set of beliefs and values about the world, whether we are aware if this process or not, and also, that these sets of beliefs (ideologies) cannot be neutral because they value some things, events, or people over others; they view reality in certain ways, and they ‘rule in’ certain possibilities and ‘rule out’ others. The editor of this new edition, Gillian Proctor, writes: “Anne was clear about the dangers of the counselling profession acting as though politics were irrelevant or pretending that counselling or counsellors could be politically neutral. Way before the current focus on intersectionality in identity politics, Anne was reminding us that each of us simultaneously occupies many social positions and these cannot be treated in isolation.  Kearny writes: “having no political ideology of which we are aware is not at all the same thing as not having any political ideology. On the contrary, our ‘unaware’ ideology seems to me to be the most potentially influential ideology, as far as clients are concerned. This is so, I believe, because: a) anything that we as counsellors allow to be unexamined (like our sexism or racism, etc) is much more likely to influence our relationship with a client than something we become, and remain, aware of and b) a major reason for believing ourselves to have no ideology could be that this is an accurate reflection of the ideology dominant in our culture / class etc, and as such, taken for granted and never challenged. That ideology, to the extent to which it does reflect current external and dominant beliefs, will be hierarchical, individualistic and regard self-interest and competitiveness as ‘natural’ and ‘normal’ – beliefs that may well be damaging to some clients.”

In the third chapter she first discusses class and family structure and refers to research that suggests, for instance, that many working-class families have a rather different structure from that of many middle-class families. Some differences being that of the role and proximity of the extended family or the marriage roles. She provides a list of questions and demonstrates the importance of taking class into consideration when doing couple or family counselling, for instance. This chapter also explores the connections between language, gender, class and counselling – a lot of ideas, which will be very briefly touched upon here. Kearny describes how language is not a socially neutral means of communicating because it is influenced by many social factors, such as gender, age, race / ethnicity, and many other variables. Gender differences in language use have been well researched, so we know that the differences between how men and women use language, for instance, directly reflect the power and social differences between women and men. Also the content of what is expressed is not processed the same by everyone. Kearny writes: “the content of what is said between people is processed differently by men and women (Tannen (1992).” Different cultures also frame verbal communications very differently, and even within each culture, where there are many different sub-cultures, there will be ‘framing differences’ that may cause misunderstandings and misinterpretations.

Finally, Kearny suggests that all these differences are massively reinforced by class differences.  Research has found that different groups of people use language differently (not referring to accent, pronunciation or vocabulary).  Different codes are used. A code is a particular way of using the language: for instance, we use a different way of speaking depending on who it is we are speaking with. Kearny describes how language is not a single unitary system of words connected by syntax; there are different language codes within the language and each of these codes is differently ‘powered’ by the social group with which it is associated. This has implications for the counselling process, and may disempower working-class clients and may result in their not feeling heard, and / or their feelings being misunderstood or misrepresented to them by the counsellor.  She provides several examples, which I will not mention here. She claims that the speech code is not neutral in its effect on how counsellors, hear their clients, nor on how client hear the counsellor because they hear them with all the social power imbalances attached to our speech codes as counsellors.  She writes: “If speech patterns are imbued with different amounts of power, as I believe they are, then it must be the case that those power relations enter into counselling relationships. As counsellors, in other words (whether our origins are middle or working class), we do not ‘listen with a neutral ear’; we listen to clients whose speech patterns have a direct effect on the power relationships.”

The next chapter deals with another aspect of class and explores poverty, the causes of poverty, the impact poverty has on people’s lives, the ideas we have about poverty and how these ideas impact on counselling, as well as, the kinds of counselling available to poor people and the political implications of that. Kearny writes: “It has been shown in most recent books on counselling that social characteristics have a direct impact on the counselling process. Gender, or ethnicity, or any other social grouping may influence counselling (see Chaplin, 1990; d’Ardenne & Mahtani, 1989). I agree with these writers that this is so, but I also believe that they leave out of their accounts how social class intersects with race, gender and these other groupings.” She also discusses how one of the features of class that receives very little attention in counselling literature is economic factors and how little attention is paid to the way in which poverty, for example, might have / have had, an effect on a client’s experiences of the world even though it is easy to understand from our personal experience how important financial factors are in our lives and our experiences of childhood. She does clarify that even though class and poverty are very closely related it is not suggested that middle-class people never experience poverty, or that all working-class people do so, and she also takes into account that that there are degrees of poverty and that it can be a relative concept, and that the same income may be experienced by some people as poverty and others as sufficient for their needs. Additionally, she provides some numbers and statistics, which I will not go into here.

The important thing is that we now know that poverty affects people’s health (through poor nutrition, poor housing,  poor health care and jobs that damage health), access to resources, their life expectancy, their educational achievements, their aspirations, standards of dress, leisure activities, level of stimulation, self-esteem and attitudes to themselves and other people. Poverty also carries with it a great deal of social stigma and blame; it is something we are taught to be ashamed of, and it is disempowering. In terms of counsellors attitudes she believes that although most counsellors would probably reject the idea that the poor are responsible for their own poverty, it is unlikely that we will have escaped some of the commonest assumptions that are contained in the social ideology of opportunity to succeed. Finally, unemployment and all that comes with it disproportionately affects working-class people. In relation to health care and counselling  Kearny writes: “poverty affects the poor in terms of whether counselling is accessible to them or not, and where it is; the client has no choice of counsellor, no control over the duration of the counselling and no control over the choice or type of counselling available. Obviously, it is better to have some counselling than not, but the limitations of what is available to poor clients is another example of the way in which class differences impact on counselling issues.”

In relation to the process of choice Kearny supports that a number of social factors contaminate this process and may impede it. She begins her discussion by exploring the term as it is used by economists, who make a distinction between ‘choice’ and ‘effective choice’; by the latter, they mean a choice that we actually have the power to implement. She thinks this is relevant for counselling because one of its goals is to enable the client to make informed choices. Kearny writes: “If we do not operate with the awareness that there are social as well as personal obstacles that limit the effective choices clients can make – and enable the client to recognise which are social and which are personal obstacles – we are in danger of becoming one of those obstacles ourselves. I believe that class position is a major factor in determining the range of effective choices a person can make, and that the range is much narrower for working-class people than it is for others. There is nothing absolute or inevitable about this in the nature of things, but in our present political system, it is the case that there are constraints placed on the effective choices working-class people can make…..”

In the fifth chapter Kearny discusses political contexts and socialization and counselling and examines another set of influences that has an impact on the counselling process: that is, the specifically political ethos of time and place. She talks about ways that counsellors are trained, regulated and organised; what political priorities predominate in our culture at any given time, and what status, role and function the current political climate imposes on counsellors as a social group. She is also concerned about the fact that political models or political views framed in non-political ways are almost never discussed and that new trainees absorb the notion that ideas about counselling and political ideas are separate. Kearny writes: ‘I believe that every single individual trainee, counsellor and supervisor, like every other person in the world, does have a political model that they carry about in their heads and that shapes and directs (among other things) their practice as counsellors, trainers and supervisors. Furthermore, I believe that each of us does have a model that exerts this influence, even when we are not aware of holding one in our heads – and even when we know we do have a political theory but we believe we keep it separate from our counselling activities. I recognise that different people hold their political models with different degrees of awareness, but I am claiming that there is no possibility of not having some internal representation of the world that can be made explicit (though it may be, and often is, a confused and contradictory model). In other words, I believe there is no politically neutral fence available for us to sit on…”

In this chapter she also discusses democracy, children’s political socialization and how we are conditioned to be mistrustful of all political education and to see it as an attempt to impose a partisan political model on otherwise politically neutral people. Kearny writes: “Nothing could be further from the truth. Children as well as adults are continually exposed to political ideas …… with no acknowledgement that these are political ideas…”

All of the chapters are design to be interactive and to invite discussion and self reflection. Below are a few questions in relation to counselling from this chapter that I wish I had engaged with in the past to make more effective choices:

If you wanted to know whether your course is run along democratic lines, what pieces of information might you need? Do you know the political ideology of your trainers? Is this an important piece of information? How might the political framework of your course influence the training you receive as a counsellor or supervisor? Do you, as a group, feel that you have the right to this kind of information?…..  

To sum up, there’s not much that I want to add to this longish post other than say that although the book was written in 1996 and is to some extent situated historically it could provide the basis for an important discussion in psychology / counselling educational contexts.  Ultimately, it is important to try to understand people, including ourself, as the intersection and dynamic interaction of all our identities, lived experience and social and historical circumstances. This is far from easy and it requires courage and effort, but even acknowledging it is a first step.

**The next two book chapters include an interesting discussion around Rogerian counselling. I hope to write a bit about that in the next post, and also, include some ideas from the commentaries.

Continued….

Part 4                                                                          Edited

“Some of you say, Joy is greater than sorrow, and others say, Nay, sorrow is the greater. But I say unto you, they are inseparable..”  Kahlil Gibran

“Class position is by far the greatest determinant of our life chances and experiences, greater than race or disability or age or any other social grouping. It is greater because it mediates all other social groupings, reinforcing or reducing their impact on people’s lives. (p91)” Anne Kearny

This is the final part on joy and other positive emotions and states, and it’s informed by Rick Hanson’s book: Hardwiring Happiness.  In the third part I focused on the first part of the book, which discusses the ways we are wired as human mammals, the role our brains and autonomic nervous systems play in happiness, how we have evolved a negativity bias, which helped our cave ancestors survive, but can often become problematic in our contemporary societies. Today I’ll draw from the second part of the book that focuses on ways to train our brains, through neuroplasticity, to rest in the “green zone” more often rather than the reactive “red zone”, and how to turn positive states to more lasting traits through a process called HEAL I’m also, re-posting the previous drawings, plus a new one, and links to two recent episodes of the Being Well podcast on topics I haven’t written much about as an introduction to topics I may be writing about in the next few posts.

The first episode is how to combine pro-social values with principled insubordination, so we can speak up for others and ourselves, and maximize our chances of creating meaningful change even in the face of social pressure. The second episode broadly touches upon the ways we define failure and success in our culture, the deconstruction of old narratives, the ability to define our notion of success and failure via process instead of outcome, and also, reframing failure as an opportunity for learning. They look at how loss works in the brain and what makes us sensitive to losing, managing expectations of success, how some people cope with failure and loss with greater ease than others, how our attributional styles can serve us or not and ways to manage the pain of failure, while also, setting up feedback systems. Finally, they mention reasons behind experiences of lack of success like poorly informed decisions, lack of foresight, not knowing, naiveté, losing our nerve, not backing our play, infertile ground or hostile environments and betrayals by others. This last theme of the conversation is in some sense connected to(or maybe complemented by) the next post, in which I will discuss Counselling, Class and Politics written by Anne Kearney in 1996 and edited and commented on by Gillian Proctor and other authors in 2018.

A short extract from the book:

“With [Anne Kearny’s] background in sociology before she trained in counselling, Anne was clear about the dangers of the counselling profession acting as though politics were irrelevant or pretending that counselling or counsellors could be politically neutral. Way before the current focus on intersectionality in identity politics, Anne was reminding us that each of us simultaneously occupies many social positions and these cannot be treated in isolation. In fact, she [Kearny] states: … class position is by far the greatest determinant of our life chances and experiences, greater than race or disability or age or any other social grouping. It is greater because it mediates all other social groupings, reinforcing or reducing their impact on people’s lives. (p91)”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

According to Rick Hanson’s work taking in the good is the deliberate internalization of positive experiences in implicit memory and it involves four steps: a) H-ave a positive experience b) E-nrich it c) A-bsorb it & d) L-ink positive and negative material. Summarily, the first step involves having a positive experience and noticing it. It could be physical pleasure, a sense of hope, achievement or determination, a feeling of closeness to someone, gratitude for something or someone, and so on. The second step involves staying with the experience for a little while, even a few seconds, and opening to the feelings in it, trying to sense it in our body; letting it fill our mind, relishing it. To make it more intense one could find something novel about it or recognize how it’s personally relevant, how it could nourish or help us. The aim is to get neurons firing together, so they’ll really wire together. Step three involves absorbing the experience and letting it sink into us and land in our mind. Rick Hanson writes: “Know that the experience is becoming part of you, a resource inside that you can take with you wherever you go.” Finally, step four, which is optional, involves linking positive and negative material. For instance, while having a vivid and stable sense of a positive experience in the foreground of awareness, also be aware of something negative in the background. However, if the negative material hijacks our attention or emotions overwhelm us it is better to return our attention on the positive until we feel re-centered in the positive. Then we let go of all negative material and rest only in the positive. In order to uproot the negative material /experience, we probably need to repeat the process. Also, it is suggested over the next hour to be aware of positive material while also bringing to mind neutral things (e.g., people, situations, ideas) that have become associated with the negative material, to disrupt unhelpful associations and to dismantle triggers.

It is suggested that although we tend to take in an experience as a whole, there is also value in learning to tune into the separate parts of our experience and becoming more aware of all aspects of our experience because this gives us a greater sense of integration, of inner wholeness, and also, allows us to “turn up the volume” on different parts when we need them. For example, this morning I went for a walk and the countryside, the sea in the distance, the familiar animals and houses, the sunny weather, kind of all blended together, but when I became conscious of the experience moment to moment I became more aware of more parts of my experience like all the thoughts passing through my mind, sense perceptions, various emotions rising and falling, movement. Rick Hanson says our experience has different parts to it, including thoughts, sense perceptions, emotions, desires, and actions.  Our thoughts include factual knowledge, ideas, beliefs, expectations, viewpoints, insights, images, and memories, and some of our thoughts are verbal (mental self-talk), and others consist of imagery or a blend of words and pictures. He suggests that it’s good to take in thoughts that are true and useful rather than untrue and harmful, seeing ourself, others, the past, and the future more accurately; understanding how our actions lead to different results; and putting things in perspective. Sense perceptions include sight, sound, taste, smell, touch, and interoception (the internal sensations of our body), and they are the pathway to experiences of relaxation, pleasure, vitality and strength. Experiences of pleasure and relaxation are important because they reduce stress, initiate the process of recovering from it, and are resources for physical and mental health. In terms of relaxation, Rick Hanson writes that it “involves the “rest and digest” parasympathetic wing of the nervous system, the natural counterbalance to the “fight or flight” sympathetic wing. Much like pleasure, relaxation dials down stress… and… strengthens the immune system, increases resilience, and lowers anxiety.”

Briefly, emotions consist of feelings and moods. Feelings are specific, often fairly brief, and caused by an inner or outer stimulus. Moods are more diffuse, enduring, and independent of stimuli. Sadness is a feeling, while depression is a mood. Feelings grow moods. For example, repeatedly taking in feelings of gladness and gratitude will tend to develop a mood of contentment. Moods grow feelings. A sense of contentment might foster feelings of joy and appreciation. Therefore, when we frequently take in positive feelings we can lift or shift our mood. Desires include hopes, wishes, longings, wants, and needs, motivations and inclinations, values, morals, aspirations, purposes, and goals, as well as aversion, drivenness and bad habits or addictions. It is suggested that they can be aimed at the outer world— wishing, for instance, that someone would not blow off your needs or undermine our efforts, let’s, or at the inner one, such as intending to stay strong when speaking up against mistreatment. Understandably, positive desires tend to lead to more happiness and benefit, while negative ones lead to more suffering and harm. Finally, as defined in the book  actions include both what we do outwardly like behaviors, facial expressions, gestures, posture, words we speak or write,  and the internal inclinations and skills that produce our actions.

There are many suggestions in the book on how to consciously create or look for positive experiences. Some ways to do this is by finding good facts in our current setting, in recent events, in ongoing conditions, in our personal qualities and in the past, and also, anticipating good facts in the future, sharing the good with others, maybe finding the good in the bad, caring about others, seeing good in the lives of others, imagining good facts, producing good facts and seeing life as opportunity. Specifically, creating a positive experience can involve  looking around in your environment to find a pleasant sight like an object in your house, a pet, a person, nature outside your window or simply thinking of something that makes you happy. Looking in our distant or near past to see the things, even the simple and ordinary positive things that have happened and that we can feel good about. Then we can move on to the many good things that are relatively stable and reliable that will probably still be there tomorrow like the sea in the distance, the ground we’re standing on, the sky above us, this planet. Rick Hanson suggest we look in widening circles, considering the imperfect but still positive aspects of our society; hopefully, including the rule of law, democracy and civil rights, especially when compared to the alternatives, both in history and still widespread today. He writes: “Think about culture and our easy access to music, ideas, art, entertainment, and wisdom teachings. Science and technology have advanced, offering things like refrigeration, air travel, flush toilets, aspirin, and the Internet. Wider still, you can count on nature’s gifts…”

Additionally, we can turn to our personality, good qualities in our character, our capabilities and various talents and skills even seemingly simple ones like cooking or using a computer. Rick Hanson says: “Standing up for the truth to yourself and to others that you are a basically good person— not a perfect person, but a good one— can feel taboo….. Observe virtues and strengths in yourself such as endurance, patience, determination, empathy, compassion, and integrity. Also notice abilities. These are facts, not fiction.” Another source of good experiences is the past. We can enhance our memory by looking through photos, and also, appreciate past experiences that have over time blended together like the hundreds of times we’ve been swimming or gone for a walk in nature or played with our child. Yet another source is imagining the very near future, like something positive that we could do in the evening, or what might happen in the more distant future. It is stated in the book that this mental time travel draws on midline networks in the cortex that were an important evolutionary development, enabling our ancestors to plan more effectively.

Also, talking about good things with others intensifies the experience and humans have highly developed neural networks for empathy and the ability to tune into others. Caring about others and taking pleasure in others’ well-being, which includes both inner experiences and outer behaviors is an evolving capacity that has likely promoted survival.  This is sometimes called altruistic joy.  Finally, we can reframe past negative events, and also, use experiences today to meet past early unmet needs. Through engaging with these practices we become more conscious of taking in the good, but also, of our blocks and difficulties in doing so, as well as, the areas of unmet needs. In other words, we try to “match some antidote experiences to past negative material”. We could start by asking the question:  What would have made all the difference when I was young? Deep down, what do I most long for?

Over the weekend I watched Belfast written and directed by Kenneth Branagh, which is based on his childhood in Ireland. His nine year old self is brought to life during a period of unrest in Ireland and major transition in his family’s life as they are forced to emigrate to England. We get a child’s view of conflict and loss, and how he tries to deal with the loss of the peaceful, safe town and neighbourhood he had known and then all that was familiar and dear to him.  I felt that the film among other things was a return and an offering of love to that curious, joyful, worried and scared boy. In an interview Branagh said: “You expect the world to turn upside down in a heartbeat. And really, I’ve understood that in my subsequent life, but prior to that, and I think it’s often the case for people experiencing their existence up to six, seven, eight, nine years old as, if you’re lucky, a glorious, maybe you would say innocent part of their lives, but something that you yearn to get back to. Not in a nostalgic way, you would just like to have that piece of mind. And this film was a search, I guess, for peace of mind.”

Taking in the good is something that we do every day, but we don’t usually do it consciously. It’s about learning to appreciate the little things in life. So, it could involve looking for chances to let good experiences sink into us throughout each day, like when we wake up, during meals, before bed time. Gratitude and wishing others well can be part of this process. Also, to take in the good we need to want to help ourself and to be on our side, which does not mean being against others or not wishing others well. Rick Hanson writes that “being on your own side is the foundation of all practices of health, well-being, and effectiveness. Without this stance, you wouldn’t be motivated to act on your own behalf. Unfortunately, for reasons such as being criticized a lot as a child, many people are a much better friend to others than they are to themselves.” Making this process a habit is necessary because the brain is a physical system, which like a muscle, gets stronger the more we exercise it. Practising will eventually make it automatic.

As stated throughout the book through engaging with this process over time we fill up our inner storehouse with the strengths we need, such as feeling at ease rather than irritable, loved rather than mistreated, and resourced rather than running on empty, and also, we foster more well-being, heal psychological issues, and support creativity and self-actualization. He writes: “Inherently, taking in the good is a way to be active rather than passive— a hammer rather than a nail— at a time when many people feel pushed and prodded by events and their reactions to them. It’s also a way to treat yourself like you matter, which is especially important if others haven’t. This practice brings you into the present moment and reduces rumination, that repetitive rehashing of things in your mind that fosters mental and physical health problems. It teaches you to have more control over your attention, so you can keep it on what’s good for you and others and pull it away from what’s bad. All the while, you’ll be sensitizing your brain to positive experiences.”

Links

https://www.rickhanson.net/being-well-podcast-dr-todd-kashdan-defy-authority-with-an-open-heart/

https://www.rickhanson.net/being-well-podcast-learning-to-cope-with-failure/

Art

I haven’t finished writing the fourth part on happiness yet, so today I’m posting a few more ink drawings (I had them scanned, but the edges have not been included. I’ll have to go to town and have them re-done, so until then I’m posting these versions). I’m also sharing a short extract from Alain de Botton and John Armstrong’s book, Art as Therapy (not Art Therapy), that I’m reading, about how art finds its purpose and value as a tool, and offers us means of assistance in relation to some universal human frailties.

 

According to the authors of the book, art is:

1. A CORRECTIVE OF BAD MEMORY: Art makes memorable and renewable the fruits of experience. It is a mechanism to keep precious things, and our best insights, in good condition and makes them publicly accessible….

  1. A PURVEYOR OF HOPE: Art keeps pleasant and cheering things in view. It knows we despair too easily.
  2. A SOURCE OF DIGNIFIED SORROW: Art reminds us of the legitimate place of sorrow in a good life, so that we panic less about our difficulties and recognize them as parts of a noble existence.
  3. A BALANCING AGENT: Art encodes with unusual clarity the essence of our good qualities and holds them up before us, in a variety of media, to help rebalance our natures and direct us towards our best
  4. A GUIDE TO SELF-KNOWLEDGE: Art can help us identify what is central to ourselves, but hard to put into words. Much that is human is not readily available in language. We can hold up art objects and say, confusedly but importantly, ‘This is me.’
  5. A GUIDE TO THE EXTENSION OF EXPERIENCE: Art is an immensely sophisticated accumulation of the experiences of others, presented to us in well-shaped and well-organized forms. It can provide us with some of the most eloquent instances of the voices of other cultures, so that an engagement with artworks stretches our notions of ourselves and our world. At first, much of art seems merely ‘other’, but we discover that it can contain ideas and attitudes that we can make our own in ways that enrich us. Not everything we need to become better versions of ourselves is already to hand in the vicinity.
  6. A RE-SENSITIZATION TOOL: Art peels away our shell and saves us from our spoilt, habitual disregard for what is all around us. We recover our sensitivity…..