In the absence of healthy boundaries there is bound to be suffering and loss……
You may like to watch Brené Brown’s short film Boundaries at http://www.theworkofthepeople.com/boundaries
Shame resides in a cave….
Another interesting video by Brené Brown on shame, guilt, humiliation and embarrassment is also available at https://catalog.pesi.com/sq/rh_001195_brenebrown_email-15324?utm_medium…. In this video she discerns between the four, discusses various aspects of shame and our strategies to defend from shame, how shame is not discussed in our culture, as well as, how debilitating it can be, how often those closest to us, like our siblings for instance, may be the ones who can shame or humiliate us the most, etc.
Lost in translation
In the last few posts I have referred to recurring themes in trauma survivors’ experience, such as the numerous health issues or auto immune conditions many suffer from; however, another common experience that runs like a thread through their lives is the difficulty of setting healthy boundaries and saying ‘No’.